The Top Five Needs of Men and Women

Remember the grading scale you had in school where A = excellent / outstanding, B = above average, C = average, D = below average and F = complete failure? Do you remember how you felt when you got an A on an exam? How did you feel when you got an F? Were you or your parents satisfied when you only got a C but were capable of an A and you decided not to study for that exam? What kind of friends did you have in school, those who were bookworms or those who didn't care? Did you notice the way you responded to different friends or acquaintances who cared too much or didn't care at all? The same is true about the person you are about to marry! What would happen if one or both of you decided not to study the needs of your fiance and just settled or tried to meet their needs with very little effort? How would you feel if your fiance did this to you? The following are taken from Willard Harley's book, "His Needs, Her Needs". They are also listed in order of importance to each gender.

The Top 5 Needs of Men

1. Sexual Fulfillment (after marriage)
2. Companionship
3. Attractive Spouse
4. Domestic Support
5. Respect and Admiration

The Top 5 Needs of Women

1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Honesty
4. Family Involvement
5. Financial Security